Are You Creating Peer to Peer Sales Relationships

Why is it that the leader or leaders of a servicenext meeting. If there's not a fit, however, we'll
business are often the only ones capable ofbe doing each other a favor by not taking the
getting new clients? Is it because they are bettertime to talk about the services that we offer.
trained? Better educated? More charismatic? MoreOK?"
intelligent?How this response is delivered is as important as
Perhaps, but I believe that the single mostwhat was delivered. For his part, the young
important factor is that they RELATE to thoseconsultant is just as ignorant as in the first
who can buy their services as PEERS. Businessresponse. Nonetheless, he may have established
owners are persuasive not only because of theirhimself as a component of complex team and
knowledge, education, passion and charisma, butoffering. He has a much better chance of relating
more importantly because they can tell theirto you as a peer and professional than by
story with powerful relatedness.shrugging his shoulders and running back to
Clearly the reason service oriented businesses failmommy.
to grow is often because of their inability toIf you think the young consultant would have
systematically create new and profitablebeen better off had he known everything about
relationships. The leader of just about anyregulatory compliance, think again. In this situation,
professional consulting or services firm will tell youyou probably would have been deluged with
that their success (or failure) is a direct result ofbrochures and a full blown data dump. Still no
their ability to effectively articulate what they do,relatedness.
and for whom they do it. In plain language this isSo how does one learn to how to have a
called "selling".conversation with relatedness? In many respects,
Consider the following example of which you mayexperience is a great teacher. Unfortunately, you
have had a similar experience. You're thinkingmay run out of time and money hoping that your
about hiring an outsourced human resourcessales consultants and consultants can gain the
company to help you with regulatory complianceselling experience that they need fast enough.
(or some such service). You remember readingThat's where your mentoring, coaching and
about a company that provides HR services inleadership will pay off. You need to lead your
one of your favorite trade publications, so yousales consultants so that they can relate to other
given them a call. The next week a young manbusiness owners and managers as peers. If your
arrives for an appointment. You ask him tosales consultants don't think of themselves as
provide a summary of how his company dealsworthy of having a peer to peer conversation
with regulatory compliance. He shrugs hiswith the people they need to be working with,
shoulders and says, "I'm not really sure. I'm newthen they will be handicapped from the get-go.
with the company and in fact this is my first jobHere is what I believe is necessary to RELATE to
out of college. I'll look into it and get back to you".others as peers:
What just happened to your confidence? UnlessReceptive - Do you know how to listen to your
this kid taps into your soft side and gets you toaudience?
play your sympathy or mentorship card, it'sEngaging - Are people comfortable talking with
probably going to be a pretty short conversationyou?
and relationship.Logical - Can you deliver your message succinctly
Now imagine that the same kid shows up and youand orderly?
pose the same question. This time he says,Authentic - Are you comfortable in your own
"Thank you for your interest. Our company helpsshoes?
a lot of clients deal with regulatory compliance andTenacious - Do you persevere with confidence in
more. Let's come back to this in a few minutes.the face of failure, resistance and skepticism?
My job today is to ask some very specificEnthusiastic - Do you believe in yourself and what
questions to determine if my company is in ayou are doing?
position to deal with your challenge. Because weThe days of the traditional "salesperson" are dead.
have a variety of methods and experts to handleAs the leader of your firm, you need to enable
unique situations, I'd like to take just a fewyour sales consultants to become leaders
minutes to know more so that we can determinethemselves. You need to set the example,
if we can help you, or if we're just wasting eachcommit to mentoring and training, and know when
other's time. If there looks to be a fit, I mayto cut them loose if they don't learn how to
need to invite the appropriate experts for ourrelate to your clients as peers.