The Do’s and Don’ts of Giving Feedback

Being able to give effective feedback is not just amake sure you check-in on how your comments
good skill to possess in business, it is a great lifehave landed with the person. Establish some sort
skill to have. Because when you are masterful atof accountability to verify their buy-in. For
giving feedback, not only can you help yourexample, if you have an employee who
employees to sustain continuously improvingconstantly misses deadlines. During the discussion,
performance, you can also improve theask for a commitment that he will meet all
performance of the baseball team you coach, thedeadlines for the next quarter. Make sure that the
cleaning lady at home, or the performance ofcommitment is specific, and not something vague
your own children on completing their chores. Anylike: “I’ll do a better job of meeting
person’s performance in any activity can bedeadlines next quarter.”
positively impacted by effective feedback.And now for the Don’ts:
Isn’t that a powerful skill to have?Don’t Make it personal: there is a difference
Wouldn’t you want to be a master at givingbetween giving feedback and criticizing. Do not
really useful and impactful feedback?make it personal. Don’t interpret actions
The good news is that it is not difficult to be(showing up late) and pass judgment on the
good at giving feedback. It does take someperson (he is slacker and isn’t truly dedicated
effort and practice. But it is definitely a skill thatto this job). Criticism destroys relationships. If
can be learned. So, to get you started, here areyour employee feels like he is being attacked, he
the Do’s and Don’ts of giving feedback.is not going to be very open to hear what you
Let’s start with the Do’s:have to say, he will immediately become
Be Timely: in order for feedback to be effective,defensive, and your job becomes much harder.
you need to act quickly. If months have gone byFocus the discussion on the action, not the person.
before you bring up an incident, the personMake your employee feel that he is being
receiving the feedback will interpret your delay tosupported, even if his performance is not up to
imply that it couldn’t have been thatstandard.
important, and the effect of the feedback isDon’t Only give feedback when there’s a
greatly diminished.problem: if you’re their leader, people need to
Be Specific: talk about your feedback in veryknow where they stand with you. If you have a
direct and specific terms (“I noticed theregreat employee who always exceeds your
were several calculation errors in last month’sexpectations, take the time to give him just as
report”). If you are vague (“your work ismuch feedback as your biggest challenge. As a
unacceptable”), how can you get thematter of fact, make it a point to give more
message across? Focus on the action and thepositive feedback comments than
results. Be very factual in your discussion.“constructive” ones with every person.
Be Open and Offer Suggestions: if the objectiveYou’ll be amazed at how much more
of your feedback discussion is to produce anmotivated your employees will become with
improvement of performance, then comeconsistent positive reinforcement.
equipped with suggestions (again be specific) onDon’t Address multiple issues in one
what the person can do to affect that change. Bediscussion: your employee will go into overload and
open to their perspective and be willing to discussyou will lose the impact of the discussion. If there
how they see that situation. Enroll them in comingare multiple issues, have different discussions and
up with a solution that they can buy into. If youjust concentrate on addressing them one at a
don’t get buy-in, change will not happen.time.
Create the right environment: feedback is bestSo there you have it, a short list of Do’s and
done in person, and in a private setting. In aDon’ts you can apply to whatever feedback
business setting, arrange a time and place foryou need to give. Remember, most people, even
your discussion. Don’t just catch people onyour rebellious teenager, want to do a good job
the fly and throw a few comments their way asand to please. They do need some clues as to
they are heading down the hallway and expecthow they are doing and what they need to
your comments to have any impact.change. So master the art of feedback and you
Check for understanding and buy-in: if thecan really help each other.
feedback discussion is about a performance issue,