Why Doing Nothing About a Problem Person Can be Your Undoing

You know that feeling you get when someone isperson from your sphere.
just not fitting with your plans? Whether it's inWe have all been here. Been where we have
your business, at work, within friendships, ortried to make this person, situation or friendship
within your family? When this happens and wework. We've given the benefit of the doubt,
feel a vague unease in one area of our life weactive support or even passive support via
should examine why that piece of our life puzzle istolerance to this particular person in the hope that
not working – and do something about it.they will just turn the corner and come into a
If you have a firm strategy that you are workingsafe position within our sphere. This is not always
to in the key areas of your life, you will begin topossible.
gather, manage and nurture people around youFeeling empowerment in our lives will mean that
into obvious and quiet positions. So if you arewe often have to make decisions that we least
unsettled in one area by a person you need tolike to make, but that have to be made.
examine their behaviour in that environment toUnderstanding what makes you work to your
see what they are not bringing to your situationoptimum level and how this roll-on effect enriches
at this time and discuss this with them.   your family, friendships and environment will give
For example, if you do not feel confident that ayou back the control you need to be successful.
person is able to help you, or deliver theIt brings balance back into your home, your work
outcomes that you seek – look at why. Is itand yourself.
because they do not have the discipline you needAsking yourself a simple question of ‘how is
of them at this time? Or is their agendathis person/thing/situation adding a value and
completely different to yours?benefit to my life?' is not calculating but
Revisit the last six weeks of discussions, dealingsempowering. If someone is not adding to your life,
and interactions you have had with this person.then you must release them. If you don't, your
Look specifically at this period of time becausestrategy and purpose will be removed from its
according to the principles of Intuitive Profiling, thefocus and you will waste valuable time away from
six week window after addressing an issue shouldyour path.
bring forth changes and optional behaviours fromWhen was the last time you tolerated a person,
the person with whom you have worked orsituation or environment just because you did not
discussed an issue with yourself as the co-profile.want to offend or upset? Passive acceptance of,
If once you revise this behaviour you realise thator ignoring, a problem person is one of the key
the person is not moving the core of theirindicators of a misguided strategy and can be
behavior, or has no intention to, you must takeyour undoing. It needs to be looked into,
action. If the resources have been given and theunderstood and managed so that you are free to
support for this person is evident, it may be theachieve and are not derailed.
sad truth to face that it is time to remove this